Hello.
No, there's no formal etiquette for this. In fact, there's apparently
no formal etiquette requiring the bride and groom to exchange gifts
(other than, say, the wedding rings).
I used Amazon's new "search inside" feature to scan through the book,
"Wediquette: The Answers to All Your Wedding Etiquette Questions."
Here's an excerpt from Page 55 of that book:
"Gifts Between Bride and Bridegroom
It is traditional in some families for the bridegroom to present his
bride with a piece of jewelry, such as a string of pearls, on their
wedding day, as it is for the husband to give his wife something when
a child is born.
However, it is a private matter between the bridal couple and
certainly not obligatory–establishing a home and taking a trip are
gifts in themselves."
source: Amazon.com / "Wediquette: The Answers to All Your Wedding
Etiquette Questions
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0140241396/
I also looked through, "What the Hell Is a Groom and What's He
Supposed to Do." Here's an excerpt from that book:
"FOR YOUR NEW WIFE
Exchanging gifts with your new bride is not mandatory. Talk to her
about it and see if she wants and see if she wants to exchange
gifts..."
source: Amazon.com / "What the Hell Is a Groom and What's He Supposed
to Do."
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0836278690/
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If you plan to exchange gifts, here are some ideas on where and when
from Frugalbride.com:
"It's traditional for the bride and groom to exchange gifts. Most
couples still perform this ritual but not all.
When and Where to Exchange Gifts
There are no set rules. 95% of the time, the gift is given before the
end of the wedding day. You don't have to plan anything special. You
can open your gifts when the 2 of you are alone or in front of others.
Here are a few suggestions:
* Any time during the week before your wedding, at home or at
dinner
* The day of the rehearsal when you give your wedding party their
gifts
* If your rehearsal is a couple of days before the wedding,
exchange gifts on the day before the wedding
* Have one of your groomsmen deliver it to the bride, on the
morning of your wedding day
* After the ceremony in the limo. Your first gift to your wife.
* At the end of the evening in your honeymoon suite..."
source: Frugalbride.com: Gifts for her
http://www.frugalbride.com/giftsforher.html
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search strategy:
amazon.com: bride groom etiquette gifts
google:
bride groom "exchange gifts"
I hope this helps. Best wishes for your wedding! |
Request for Answer Clarification by
grammatoncleric-ga
on
31 Oct 2003 14:12 PST
Juggler-ga,
You did good research for $2...however, I must say that I disagree
with the placement of this statement, "...there's apparently no formal
etiquette requiring the bride and groom to exchange gifts" in the
answer.
This statement is not relevant to my question. I asked about when
bride's gifts are traditionally given...and implied an inquiry about
the etiquette of the timing of the gift, not the etiquette of giving
the gift itself. I really didn't need verbage on whether we should
decide for ourselves if to give gifts and if so when...just asking
whether there was a traditional time for it.
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Clarification of Answer by
juggler-ga
on
31 Oct 2003 14:31 PST
I'm sorry for any misunderstanding.
Just to explain a little... I checked the wedding etiquette books at
Amazon.com in the hopes that there would be some explanation of the
etiquette on where/when the groom gives gifts to the bride.
It turned out that the etiquette books were silent on that subject,
instead indicating that the act of gift-giving between bride & groom
is not a formal requirement, and as such there isn't formal etiquette
on the where/when. The information was intended as an explanation on
why it's unlikely that there are any formal rules on exactly where and
when the groom gives the bride her gift.
I didn't mean to provide you with irrelevant, unhelpful information.
And I sincerly apologize.
Again, I hope that some of the ideas are helpful at this site:
Frugalbride.com: Gifts for her
http://www.frugalbride.com/giftsforher.html
Once again, I'm very sorry and regret any misundertanding my answer my
have created. I do wish you the very best for your wedding!
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Clarification of Answer by
juggler-ga
on
31 Oct 2003 14:33 PST
Sorry for the typo:
"... I sincerely apologize..."
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Request for Answer Clarification by
grammatoncleric-ga
on
31 Oct 2003 15:03 PST
Juggler,
Now I feel bad. I was being too pedantic. You did a fine job, and
are a good Researcher! Thank you for your gracious response and I
hope your weekend is fun.
The Grammaton Cleric
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Clarification of Answer by
juggler-ga
on
31 Oct 2003 18:37 PST
Thank you. You have nice weekend too!
My colleague larre-ga has very graciously informed me of two web pages
at theknot.com that may be helpful:
"The Bride's Gift: The Right One for the Big Day"
http://www.theknot.com/ch_article.html?Object=AI980914203509&keyword=GIFTS&channel=&subchannel=
"Exchanging Gifts: Bride and Groom"
http://www.theknot.com/ch_qaarticle.html?Object=AI980914200535&subchannel=GIFTS%20&%20REGISTERING&channel=planning&keyword=GIFTS%20&%20REGISTERING
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Clarification of Answer by
juggler-ga
on
21 Jan 2004 03:04 PST
Hi Grammatoncleric,
This is actually regarding your expired question about non-disclosure agreements.
http://answers.google.com/answers/threadview?id=297239
I couldn't post this comment there (since it's expired), but I figured
you might see it if I posted it here. I hope you don't mind.
Your initial question had asked about the "legality" of disclosing
confidential information to wife (i.e., whether such disclosure would
"technically break an NDA").
Your perception of the IEEE journal article as "problematic" on the
basis that it involved disclosure in a public setting has me a little
worried that perhaps you were left with the impression that disclosure
in a private setting would be legal (i.e., that it wouldn't
"technically break an NDA").
That's not the case.
While the existence of the marital privilege may impede a prosecution,
it doesn't confer legitimacy on something that's illegitimate.
I hope this helps.
Best regards,
juggler
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