I need some serious advice.  When someone (as myself in this case) has
been looking for something for months and have asked nearly every
organization which might have the information about it in his home
town, without any success.  How does someone know how to stop and say
to themselves "stop the the information isn't out there" to
themselves.  Is there anyway that the brain can control itself about
this.

Greetings Stephen,
You've got a pretty good record of answered questions here, including
a couple in comments, it seems, so you know the right place for help.

Remember Robert the Bruce:  "Try, try and try again."

Or you could try this:

PRAYER TO ST. ANTHONY FOR LOST ITEMS
St. Anthony, St. Anthony, please look around, 
something is lost and needs to be found.

I have a friend who uses it in German and assures me that it helps  
(admittedly, used for items that he has lost, but maybe you once knew
that which you are now seeking, also "lost" in principle at least).
:-)

If intersession doesn't help, consider it to be one of the great
unfathomable questions that religion, philosophy and G-A cannot
answer.

With humor and regards,
Myoarin

Thank you for your advise.  I am afraid to say that won't work. I have
been looking for theses same things, off and on since Oct 2004.  For
each one I have over 80 e-mails that I have saved on my computer from
people that I have corresspended with on theses issue back and forth.

I really need some real mental health.  Will the brain aloud me to
forget theses things and move on.  Or shall I keep at it, until it is
found.

I am very troubled with this ??

Hello Stephen,

If you mean that you're certain that what you've been looking for is
not available and you feel so obsessed about it that you can't just
let it go, I'd agree with you that you might need mental health. So if
you're sure of this, just look for it: see a counselor or
psychotherapist of the kind you prefer, to get rid of the obsession
and learn why you get obsessed. My choice: a Freudian psychoanalyst.
And please don't forget the disclaimer at the bottom of this page.
Best luck!!

Guillermo

There are unfortunately those things we will never know on this earth.  

You seem a reasonable person so I will simply advise you to reason
with yourself.  You realize that this information cannot be found, and
you seem so confident in this realization that you haven't even told
us the question in this post.

If you know that you could never jump across Niagra falls, would it
bother you so much that kept practicing all your life trying to make
it happen?  If you know that you cannot fly, would you keep flapping
your arms harder and harder trying desperately to get into the air? 
Giving up isn't always a sign of weakness, it is often a sign of
intelligence specifically when the costs of continuing outweigh the
benefits.

You simply need to come to that realization as the reasonable person
that you are that it is time to quit and fully understand that this is
the best course of action.  Then you can feel good about ending your
pursuit of this information.

stephen...

I may have found what you're looking for in this question:
http://answers.google.com/answers/threadview?id=514356